Instilling responsibility and hard work in a child. How to raise a child to be hardworking

I will probably never understand parents who complain that their child doesn’t want to do anything around the house. Honestly, as a child I very rarely swept the floor, and washed dishes only on holidays. Getting up from the festive table, my father’s sister usually took a towel and nodded slightly conspiratorially towards the kitchen. In the kitchen, responsibilities were distributed in this way: Aunt Raya took on the functions of the quality control department, checking that the grease was thoroughly washed off the plates, and at the same time wiping the cups and saucers dry. I washed the dishes and listened to what was going on in the room. After ten to fifteen minutes, seeing that I could no longer be kept in the kitchen, my aunt announced a break. After which we changed places.

I confess: I started cooking on my own only after separating from my parents, when, to put it mildly, I was already well over 20 or even 25. Until that moment, I only occasionally performed the role of “serve and bring” in the kitchen, peeling potatoes and cutting salad. I loved making salads! And I still do it with great pleasure.

My parents didn’t force me or my brother to vacuum, sweep the floor, or take out trash in the trash.(we lived in a house without a garbage disposal), nor did we do laundry. And yet, I began to do all this with pleasure when I lived separately from my parents. Simply because my mother was no longer around. An adult, I understood perfectly well: no one would do the housework except me. And it’s better not to accumulate a lot of money, but to solve household problems as they arise. This will leave more time for more exciting activities. I still follow this rule to this day. No matter how tired I am, every other day I make sure to wash the floors and wipe off the dust (otherwise the accumulated dust can provoke an allergy in my husband). And I cook food, although, to be honest, I treat this as a severe necessity and do not have any special culinary talents. But if my husband and son eat my cooking, then everything is not so bad.

So when friends complain about careless children, I always answer: “He will live with his own family, separate from his parents, and learn everything.”

And yet, self-service skills must be instilled in the child. At what age should I start? Let's listen to what psychologists say.

Make him interested

In fact, it is necessary to raise a child already when he is still, figuratively speaking, lying across the bench. When the baby first reaches out to the rattle, one mother will carefully place the rattle in the hand, and the other will watch as the baby puffs with all her might, squeaks, but tries to reach the desired goal. The second mother is right. She instills in the child independence and the desire to achieve their goals, relying only on their own strengths. Which is the same as hard work.

After all, parents should teach their children not how to cook dinner and wash clothes (although this is, of course, important), but independence, the ability to overcome difficulties, and form the child’s active position in relation to the world around him. However, these are all scientific delights, you just need to know: by instilling self-service skills in a child and encouraging his (her) diligence when he (she) helps us around the house, we make life easier for children in the future and lay the foundation for their future success in life. That's it - no more, no less.

Therefore, try not to limit your baby’s initiative.. If you try to predict all the actions of your own blood, then nothing good will come of it: the child’s most important force that guides him, interest, will fade away. Let the little one assemble the pyramid on his own, reach for the rattle, and turn the page of the book. And at the same time he will learn to work.

Toddlers who are already a year and a half old need to patiently instill self-care skills. It's time to teach your baby to wash himself, use a towel, put away toys, and fasten buttons. Of course, you will have to help him until he develops the habit of doing all this on his own.

Remember: a child learns some actions when he begins to imitate his elders. Therefore, if your child is eager to help dad or mom vacuum the carpet, do not push him away, do not suppress the initiative. On the contrary, involve your child in every possible way in both cleaning the house and preparing food.

At about three years old, the toddler begins to repeat: “I myself!” Great! The task of parents is to quietly help and praise the baby as often as possible, even for the tiniest victories. And to make it easier to do this, we need to come up with permanent household responsibilities for the offspring. For example, clearing dishes from the table, watering flowers, wiping off dust, making the bed, etc. The main thing is that the assignment is permanent, within the child’s strength, and that no one but him can complete it. In a word, when you entrust something to a child, wait until he does everything, and do not try to do the work for him.

You don’t have time to wait, is it easier to dress your little one yourself and quickly take him to kindergarten? So wake him up half an hour earlier, putting him to bed early in the evening. Otherwise, you will simply kill the desire for self-service. But don't forget to help the little guy. For example, pull the sock halfway to make it easier for the child to take it off, or help him stick his head into the sweater, and let him put his arms through himself.

Never push a child! The more you hurry him, the slower he will do everything. If only because of the stubbornness inherent in all children. Be patient - sooner or later everything will start to work out for the baby, his movements will become fast and confident.

If something doesn’t work out for your child, do it together. Show how it should be done, speak slowly through each of your movements, explain where the mistake is and how to correct it. And be sure to find something to praise your child for. Let your child feel that his efforts are not in vain, that he benefits not only himself, but also those around him. Let's say, “I’m so tired today, and you helped me, cleared the table. Well done!”

Be prepared for the fact that your child needs to be constantly reminded of everything. But you need to do this politely and in a tone as if you were talking to an adult.

Children should be taught through play. This also applies to household chores. If a child is interested, he will move mountains. Create a fun game. Let's say the car needs to be put not on a shelf, but driven into the garage, the doll needs to be put to bed, but the knife really misses working. So let's let him cut the salad. And since the knife cannot cope with this on its own, we must help it. You can also arrange a competition: “Let’s see who’s faster - you sweep the room, or I’ll wash the dishes.”

A child will only receive satisfaction from work when his work requires certain efforts from him. There is nothing worse than “toy” labor that costs him nothing. But you can’t make helping around the house a means to achieve another goal (“Until you clean the room, you won’t go for a walk”). Otherwise, children will perceive work as something forced, helping around the house will lose its attractiveness, will cease to captivate and bring joy.

It happens that in an effort to instill labor skills in the younger generation, gentlemen, adults forget that they are dealing with children. Children's performance has a legal limit. If a child fulfills someone’s request for at least five minutes, he can already be considered obedient and hardworking.

Basic Rules

- Don’t suppress your child’s initiative - you can learn something only through trial and error, that is, only through practice.
- Before you entrust something to your child, show him how to do it. Explain the algorithm of actions and see how the child copes with the task. If something didn’t work out, find something to praise the child for and tactfully correct the mistakes. Be patient. You may have to do this operation several times together.
- Be consistent in your demands.
— Take into account the individual and age characteristics of the child. Work must be feasible and require physical and mental effort.
- Turn homework into a fun game.
— Teach your child to respect the work of other people. Tell your child about your work and the work of other loved ones.
— Tactfully evaluate the results of your child’s work. Constantly praise him for his diligence and diligence. Criticize only the result or method, not the smallest performer.
— Work should not be monotonous. To help your child rest, offer him different jobs: water the flowers, and now let’s prepare dinner together.
— The tone in which the order is given is very important. A respectful request is fulfilled more readily than a peremptory order.
— Encourage your child more often for independence, initiative, and the quality of the work performed. If everything didn’t work out, don’t get annoyed, explain it again.
- Always involve your child in large family matters (when you need to set the festive table, tidy up before guests arrive, put things in order after the holiday) and teach them to finish the work they start.
— Constantly review and expand the range of responsibilities of your child.
— You can’t punish a child with work (“You don’t listen to me, so you’ll wash the dishes”).

We arrange laundry

We have already said that when communicating with a child, the principle “do as I do” is important. To teach your child how to do laundry, demonstrate this process with your own example. Take doll clothes or a handkerchief, a bar of soap, and pour warm water into a basin. Show your child the sequence of actions and ask him to repeat them. At the same time, any of your actions must be voiced: “I put clothes in a basin, take soap, rub the stains on the clothes, take the clothes with both hands and rub the spots again, you see - I rub one fist against the other, and now I need to pour out the dirty water, pour in clean and rinse what you washed. Then we wring it out, hang it on a string and straighten it out.” It’s good if the string is at the child’s eye level so that he can hang the washed item on his own.

Once will, of course, not be enough. Therefore, from time to time you need to tell the baby: “Come on, I’ll do the laundry, and you will help me.” Each time, give your little one more independence. First, let him hang up what you washed. Then let him bring the dirty thing and rub it with soap, etc. Gradually you will see that your child can cope with simple laundry without your participation. How long will it take? The more often such joint washing takes place, the faster the child will master this simple task.

Making sandwiches

Take cheese, sausage, in general, everything you want to put on bread, cut all this stuff into thin slices in the presence of the child.

Let the baby even try to cut something himself. To do this, place the knife in its handle, place yours on top and move the knife. The baby will be delighted, honestly!

And if you also invite the baby to decorate the sandwich himself, spread butter on it, and place it beautifully on a tray or dish - next time he himself, without any reminder, will volunteer to help you in the kitchen.

Be sure to praise your assistant. Moreover, in the presence of other family members. And when eating sandwiches, don’t forget to praise them and emphasize “authorship.”

Next time the child will want to prepare a salad, and then, lo and behold, it will be their turn to make potatoes and scrambled eggs.

Learning to wash dishes

First, ask your child why he needs to wash the dishes. Ask what will happen if it remains dirty. Let him express his version. And then tell them that leftover food and fat on plates spoil over time, unpleasant odors spread, and harmful creatures—microbes—infest the plates. If you eat from such dishes, you can get sick.

Now you can start the demonstration wash. Take two small unwashed plates (experiments are best done on unbreakable dishes), detergent and a sponge.

Show your baby how you apply detergent to a sponge, wipe dishes and rinse them with clean water. Draw your child's attention to the fact that the detergent must be thoroughly rinsed off so that it does not spoil the taste of the food that he will then eat from this plate. Wipe the plate with a towel and place on a shelf or drying rack.

Show how you rinse the sponge thoroughly after washing the dishes.

The baby, of course, will not remember the sequence of actions right away. It's OK. Just call him every time you are going to wash the dishes, turn to him for help: “help me, please, I can’t do it without you.” When washing the dishes, comment in detail on every little detail and explain why you are doing it. And be sure to praise!

This is how, step by step, you will grow a real assistant.

Looking at the endless scattered toys, dirty cups and shoes lying around in the hallway, almost all parents in the world are asking the same question: how to instill hard work in their child? How to make sure that your dear and beloved child begins to respect the work of others and finally becomes a child himself?

When to start

Hard work is the desire and desire to work; it is not an innate character trait of a person; it needs to be nurtured, and from early childhood. At two or three years old, children develop a desire to do everything themselves, including dressing, and self-care is the main type of work of a small child. It is important not to miss this period, because putting toys away, washing, and combing your hair builds confidence and the desire to overcome obstacles.

What if later?

Quite often, parents, for one reason or another, miss this moment, and then they need to make much more effort, show imagination, resourcefulness and, most importantly, angelic patience. Then the child will be able to catch up.

Where to begin?

At preschool age, children are keenly interested in the activities of adults that they observe. They will be very willing to help you iron, sweep, fix your phone, and vacuum. In order not to discourage your child from working, allow him to help. Let him set the table and wash a couple of plates or spoons. It is very important for a child to do any task in the best possible way.

A method that is ideal for kids is to help in the form of a game. For example, when collecting toys, you can compete to see who can assemble cubes or cars the fastest.

Let the baby save the entire galaxy from the invasion of dust or stop the torment of the dishes by washing them. It doesn’t matter what the child’s heroism will be; The main thing is that he himself believes that he is a real hero, protector and helper.

Another method is to show a clear example. This could be a cartoon character or a historical figure. Having told your child about it, you need to try to interest him and make him want to imitate.

We set tasks correctly

Whatever you ask your child to do, never use a commanding tone. Any person, no matter what age he is - 3 years, 15 or 45 years old, responds much better to a request than to an order. Therefore, instead of: “How much can you say...”, try to use softer forms.

Often children refuse to do something because they do not understand well what is required of them. When formulating the tasks you give your child, try to be as specific as possible. “Clean up your room” sounds too abstract. This may involve general cleaning. “Hang up your clothes and put away your books” - this form is clearer, clearer and more accessible.

Own example

One of the best teachers is your own example. For a child, parents are a kind of standard of behavior. By showing your child how to easily and simply carry out certain tasks, you will prove to him that there is nothing scary in this work. The main thing to remember: the child should not think that housework is hard work or punishment.

Try to do everything in a good mood, show your child that even by doing fairly simple things, you can get pleasure: not from the process, but from the result. Then, helping dad hammer nails, the little man will feel like a truly grown-up, because he has completed a very difficult task. The young housewife, having prepared the first salad in her life, will experience one of the best feelings in the world when she sees her family happily devouring her cooking.

Commensurability

Do not entrust your child with something he cannot handle. You should not ask him to arrange expensive, breakable dishes: if he is not yet dexterous enough, then a broken salad bowl will upset him and discourage him from doing such work. Ensure that children do not lift heavy objects or handle dangerous objects when you do not supervise them. Remember: if the task is feasible, then it is completed with interest and pleasure.

Responsibilities

It is important that the child understands that not only the parents, but also him, have regular ones in the family, and not from time to time. Instruct them to feed the fish, make the bed, arrange books on shelves, and water the flowers. Interest in work increases if the child sees the benefits of what he has done.

Parental care

Often, considering that the children are still small or sick, or citing a lack of time and patience, parents perform their responsibilities for their children. The lack of need to make efforts fosters laziness, indifference, and selfishness in children.

Don't do for your child what he can do on his own!

Try to help your child only when he asks for it.

Joint work

Including a child in feasible work in the family makes his life more interesting. In addition, joint work brings the family together, the child feels important. “We baked pies with mom,” “We repaired the car with dad,” the children say with pride.

Ask for help more often: put groceries in the refrigerator, wipe up a puddle in the bathroom, throw an empty bag from the table into the trash, give them slippers, etc. Over time, the child himself will notice what needs to be done.

Don't redo their work in front of them! And be sure to praise your children for what they do!

Behavior is formed from habits, and character is formed from behavior. All in our hands

Angela Voropai

To teach a boy to work hard, he needs to be given small tasks around the house. When he copes with them, reward him. When a boy has pocket money, he will need to be taught purposefulness.

For example: Your boy wanted to buy himself a mobile phone. To do this, he must keep the pocket money that his parents give him, plus those given to him. Purposefulness can be taught by example. Let's say you set out to lose weight and therefore start running every morning. By your example, you can show your son how to be obligatory. You need to keep your promises that you gave him. Your son will look at you and learn from your example to keep his promises.

The role of encouragement for boys

The baby must be praised for all his positive results. He will have an incentive to improve. This will help him become a real man in the future. A child cannot be punished if he does something his own way, and not the way you would like. You must discuss his unseemly act so that the child does not feel humiliation of his own dignity, but at the same time you need to analyze the situation. We must evaluate his actions, not his personality. If you humiliate a child’s personality, this can lead to his insecurity and some kind of complexes and tightness. The child must be given the opportunity to realize the abilities he has and receive support from his parents. When you praise your child, he will be more willing to do something even better. You must be observant to notice your son's progress. Every little achievement is a step towards self-confidence.

Considering the opinion of psychologists who advise teaching your children to clean the house, give your child a task. The cleaning process is necessary and useful for a boy to grow as a person. All mothers wish that their baby does not grow up lazy or selfish. As he grows up, such a boy will shift all the housework onto another family member. To teach a child independence and self-confidence, it is necessary to instill the habit of helping his mother around the house and teach him to maintain order. It would be better for parents if they start fighting the child’s laziness from childhood, then it will be easier for both you and your baby.

How to teach a child to order from the age of two years

From a very early age, when a child is only two years old, he must be taught to work. Usually at this age the baby himself strives to help his parents. They repeat everything after their parents. At the age of three, children pay attention when they see a mess in the house, so if they are not taught in time to put away toys or dishes after themselves, then they can grow up to be slobs.

In raising a boy, the trust placed in him works very well, which is based on encouraging the child’s desire to help you. Give your child the task of wiping the dust. Contact him with a request, then he will be proud that he was entrusted with the task, and he will cope with it with great desire. At this wonderful age, children always imitate their parents. It’s good to give gifts to your baby with meaning. For example: give your child a toy vacuum cleaner and he will vacuum his room. This vacuum cleaner even comes with trash. When the child starts cleaning, everything will look real.

We gradually accustom ourselves to order.

The process of raising a child and teaching him to work should occur according to the rule of gradualness. What is it? The parents teach the child step by step and very naturally to work - from the simplest to the more complex. It will be better if you turn cleaning the house into a game, then the baby will be much more interested in doing it.

In order to teach your child to clean up after himself, make it a rule to store away. Give your baby a special place so that the child can put toys and his things.

At the age of six, a child no longer perceives cleaning as a game. He already knows that this is work. At this age, it is usually difficult to get a child to clean up after themselves or to work at home.

How then? We will use the rule of friendliness. Following him, you should try to explain to the baby without swearing that he is already a big boy in order to help his mother clean the apartment. You can leave the child the right to choose what kind of work he wants to do.

In addition, there is a planning rule. Create a daily routine for your child that includes work.

And please don't forget about the animals in the house. The child can feed or water the animal, comb it. Animals quickly learn to be responsible.

How to develop labor skills in children? How to instill a love of work in a child?

Work plays an important role in a child's life. It especially increases when he enters school. A child who is not accustomed to work will always face difficulties. Hard work as a personality quality develops from childhood. The springboard for its development is the family, the home. Preschool and primary school age are the most favorable for the formation of a system of positive motives and attitudes towards household work. Accustoming a child to housework depends on his individual characteristics and the conditions in which he finds himself.

The child perceives all the actions of the parents unquestioningly and does not think about the correctness or incorrectness of their results. Moreover, he constantly imitates his parents. And accordingly, if parents do not like housework and they constantly demonstrate this, then the child will not like it either. Gradually, he develops a negative attitude towards domestic work in general or towards its individual types.

An even more destructive effect on the child is if one parent treats the other’s work with contempt: “Your place is at the stove,” the husband says contemptuously to his wife. Or: “Just think, science, fixing a water tap. Any man can do this,” the wife tells her husband. What can a child develop under the influence of such attitudes? Contempt for work.

If a boy loves work, he points his finger at a book,

They write about this guy here: he’s a good boy, -

so the famous poet V.V. Mayakovsky explained to the children what is good and what is bad.

The most important helper or pest in teaching a child to work- the conditions that the family creates. This is the spirit and moral principles of the family. The child reacts very sensitively to them.

Of course, the best option is to do everything together with the child. Clean the apartment, wash clothes, cook, go to the store or pick up correspondence at the mailbox. Let the child participate in all family activities. The beginning of the formation of a positive attitude towards work can be considered the formation of self-service skills. For a growing child, this is a very important part of his independence.

The child can do everything himself! This simple truth must be learned. Of course, he must be taught, repeatedly and patiently shown how to cope with certain matters. Create a constant situation of success by praising every achievement. After all, in essence, domestic work is routine and monotony. But it is necessary for the functioning of the family as an integral organism. The main thing is to show the child that its implementation is necessary for family members, that it is important for them. There are several stages in teaching a child to do housework:

At the first stage The child is nearby all the time and tries to do everything with you. Many things don't work out at first. But gradually he masters the necessary actions. This is where you need to involve creating positive motivation.

For example: “What a great fellow you are for washing the dishes. Mom will come home from work tired, and here is such a pleasant surprise!” or: “It’s great that you brought the newspaper yourself for dad. Dad will come home from work tired...”, etc. The reaction of the one who was helped by the child’s actions is also very important. You need to be very attentive to his activities, notice all the little things. After all, these are little things for an adult, but for a child a laborious Mont Blanc.

At the second stage gradually transfer joint work activities to the child’s personal activities. The role of the child’s independent actions increases. The formation of labor motives requires special care. When entrusting a child with this or that type of work, it is necessary to talk about who and specifically what benefits he will bring with his actions. Assign independent activities or types of household work. It is useful for the child to have some kind of constant type of work. For example, pour powder into the washing machine or run the dishwasher. The choice of types of work depends on the age of the child and the capabilities of the family.

At the third stage The child is already developing the habit of doing homework, which over time and with appropriate support becomes a characteristic of his personality. And then he no longer thinks about whether he needs to clean the room or apartment, wash the dishes or take out the trash. As a rule, he does this easily, without posing as a hero of labor.

There are many opinions on the issue of gender of this or that type of domestic work. How to be here? Teach boys to wash dishes and laundry, and girls to hammer nails and change car tires? There is no consensus in the pedagogical literature on this issue. Yes, this is understandable; there cannot be a definite answer. It depends on the family in which the child grows up. Full-time, incomplete, prosperous, disadvantaged, with a predominance of men or women - all these factors influence the choice of the right position. And, of course, this also depends on the individual characteristics of the child, on his area of ​​interest. In life, there are women who can do “male” work perfectly, and boys who can easily cope with “female” types of work. We need to focus, in our opinion, on the interests and attitudes of the child. If your daughter is interested in delving into the mechanisms with you, well, good for you. I don't think she should be banned from doing this. And if your son enjoys baking at home, let him realize it. This will not hurt in the future and will not necessarily be decisive in his choice of future profession. It is sometimes useful to remember that, for example, knitting arose in England as a men's activity. If there are two or three children in a family, it is necessary to fairly divide the types of housework between them. It is important to develop in them the quality of comradely mutual assistance. This distribution can be carried out in the form of game elements, constantly changing the types of labor. Or, on the contrary, you can invite the children to choose what everyone likes. The main thing is that all incentives and support are equal and fair.

And, of course, the consistency and constancy of an adult’s actions plays a huge role in teaching a child to do housework. In no case should you educate according to your mood or your desire. All actions towards the child must be logical, explainable, and most importantly, understandable to him.

Hard work is the most important personality quality. A love of work instilled in a child from an early age will help him in the future cope with life’s problems more quickly and easily. The basis for the development of hard work, of course, is the family. Watching the work of adults, the child feels the desire to imitate them and perform the same actions. And here the main task is not to extinguish this desire, but to support and strengthen it. The most favorable time for developing positive motivation for work in a child is preschool and primary school age.

We teach children to work from childhood

Practice helps to form necessary and correct habits. Labor education of a child can begin from a very early age. The attitude of some parents that “he’s still little, let him frolic for now and always have time to work” is incorrect. You should not be afraid that by teaching a child to work, you are committing violence against him. Preschoolers are very active people, restless, inquisitive, and lively. And feasible work does not in any way contradict the nature of a healthy child - on the contrary, it corresponds to the baby’s natural need for movement and action; it’s just that the preschooler’s energy should be carefully directed in the right direction. Simple work, however, teaches a child to overcome certain difficulties, to be resilient, persistent, and to complete what he has started. But remember that you cannot expect stable responsibility from a child even when he turns 15. Just remember how irresponsible many adults are. Be patient, gently remind your child about his activities, and speak as if you were addressing an adult. Don't grumble or get irritated - this will kill any desire in your baby to help you.

We teach you to work correctly

Gradually start giving your baby simple tasks. By the age of two, children try to dress themselves. Perhaps only a year later the child will master this science, and after another year he will finally be able to cope with buttons and laces on shoes. Five or six year old children can already help you clean the apartment, work in the garden, prepare dinner (for example, you can entrust your child with peeling boiled vegetables). It is very important to motivate all actions. Also remember the need to help your child on your part. A complete lack of help will discourage the child from making new attempts. For example, remove your baby's sock halfway, this will make it easier for him to remove it completely, etc.

Sometimes adults notice that they constantly have to hurry the child - so that he gets out of bed, washes himself, gets dressed, has breakfast, but he keeps digging and digging. But a child is not born a “hoarder”. What makes him this way is the comments of adults, aimed at making him act faster - finish the soup or go to bed sooner. For adults, this gradually becomes a habit, and children, for their part, turn into little stubborn people. All day long you scold and nag your child, but you still have difficulty getting him to do something. This is a vicious circle, and there is only one way out - patience and trust.

Consider the physical capabilities of the baby, do not overload him. Unfortunately, this trend is also not uncommon, especially in families with 2-3 children. Often older children, six or seven years old, are assigned to babysit their younger brothers or sisters; they have to carry them in their arms. But the child’s spine is not yet sufficiently formed, the muscles do not have the necessary endurance, physical overload can result in curvature of the spine and general exhaustion. Be careful.

Some of your demands may be difficult for your child to fulfill. But the main thing is that the child enjoys his work, as well as joy from the results of the work performed. According to psychological and pedagogical research, children perform many actions in accordance with their emotions and momentary desires. The main way to encourage a child to take one action or another is to evoke a positive emotional response and make work an attractive activity for the child.

We teach you to work with pleasure

In preschool age, the child works, imitating adults. Try to turn work into a kind of game. For example, to put away toys, you can make a garage out of construction sets or cubes, and put the doll to sleep, and now cleaning up toys has turned into an exciting game. You will see with what pleasure the child will be involved in it. You can build a real toy city in a children's room or children's corner! Let the child retain more of the initiative; he will be pleased to feel like the “master” of the situation, which will satisfy the baby’s self-esteem.

Remember the need to instill in a child the so-called work attitude. The child should know that this or that work has a specific purpose and brings certain benefits. All this should be explained to the child by an adult. For example, your baby will be happy to wash doll clothes in a small basin with soap and warm water. Our task is to ensure that things are washed well and become clean. If everything didn’t work out the first time, encourage him and treat the child’s efforts with due attention and respect. The baby only receives satisfaction and joy when doing the work requires effort from him. “Toy” work in this matter is the worst assistant. And don’t think that the baby is not able to distinguish useless work from useful work. Invite your child to wash a clean cup when there is a dirty one nearby. The kid will certainly either refuse this work or ask for a dirty cup.

Getting used to regular work

The biggest mistake parents make is not regularly introducing their child to work, from time to time. But a 5-7 year old preschooler should have very specific and permanent responsibilities around the house. For example, you can instruct him to feed your pet, water the flowers, wash your dishes after meals, make the bed. Such duties instill in the child conscientiousness, responsibility, discipline, and also teach them to perform work that is not only pleasant, but also necessary. In modern life this is important.

The excuse for the lack of labor education in the family cannot be the lack of free time by parents. Of course, waiting for the child to get dressed or wash the dishes is a long time. It’s easier and faster for us to do everything ourselves. And we will get better results. All this is true, but by doing this, we miss invaluable time - that golden period of childhood, when the baby strives to do everything on his own, imitating adults, when he is so interested in putting on tights or a T-shirt himself, and with enviable stubbornness and zeal he tries to cope with this task. If you are late for kindergarten or work, just put your baby to bed early and wake him up early. If you follow the path of least resistance, by the age of 3-4 these wonderful impulses to work in the child will fade away, he will get used to adults doing everything for him. And if you ask your baby to dress on his own, he will also become indignant and capricious. By the age of 7-9, he will already be quite skillfully and purposefully shirking any responsibilities.

We teach you to work consciously

Young children do not yet realize the significance of the everyday actions of adults. They are also not yet able to understand that parents who work also do household chores - cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. - may become tired and tired. For a child, everything that happens around him is taken for granted, and the child himself cannot appreciate the need to help his parents. Your task is to explain to your child that it will be very good if he helps with some chores around the house, that you need it, that his help will make it possible to finish the work faster and devote more time to interesting activities, joint games, etc. The sooner a child begins to master the science of hard work, the easier it will be for him, and he will never become acquainted with the feeling of laziness. Missing this point at an early age will require long-term and serious work in the future to correct the error, which, by the way, in most cases remains ineffective. After all, the roots of inaction and an idle lifestyle go back to the child’s awareness that all things can be done by someone else. In the future, this approach develops inability to cope with life in general and creates an irresponsible and helpless personality.

For children, the best cure for laziness is play and encouragement. Remember, what matters to a child is not what he does, but how he does it. Using the game, you can give your child almost any task. Just when addressing him, start the phrase with two magic words: “Let’s play!” At an early age, children are also interested in various competitive moments - who can fold their clothes more neatly, wash the dishes better, etc. The winner gets a prize! Choose the method that most successfully reunites your interests with the child’s desires. Work should be easy for a child, it should bring joy, and not be a burden. Books and cartoons about hardworking and lazy children (for example, “Vovka in the Far Far Away Kingdom”) will be a good help. Believe me, a child will not want to be like a lazy character!

We take into account the individual characteristics of the child

Shy children often lack self-confidence, and therefore even the slightest defeat is perceived by them as a huge shame. Such children react painfully to adults’ comments; it constantly seems to them that they are doing everything badly. Such a child’s self-esteem can also be easily vulnerable, and therefore he would rather be known as a lazy person than once again become an object of ridicule from peers or reproaches from adults. It often happens that children do chores with great eagerness, but do not make progress at school; the reason may be the fact that the teacher once expressed dissatisfaction with their knowledge in front of everyone in the lesson.

Sometimes children with this type of character are slow by nature, and this slowness should not be confused with laziness. Low activity may also be due to a feeling of danger. Again, I'd rather be known as a lazy person than a coward. It is important to remember that neurotic children are prone to nervous exhaustion. If such a child has been walking outside for a long time or watching TV, then on the same day he may refuse not only to do some housework, but even to brush his teeth before bed. Be forgiving and patient. Consider your child's individual characteristics.

• When a child tries to help you, do not interfere with this; on the contrary, support the child’s initiative. Show how to use a rag, dustpan, etc.
• Allow your child to wash dishes. To avoid broken plates or injuries, you may want to trust your child with plastic utensils first.
• To develop responsibility and a sense of duty, entrust your child with caring for a living creature, even if it is just one indoor plant at first. Explain that the flower needs regular watering and care, otherwise it will die.
• Older children can be taught to use household appliances. Show how to turn on a microwave oven or an electric kettle. Remember that a child can only interact with electrical appliances under adult supervision!
• Teach older children how to wash their underwear, socks, and handkerchiefs.
• It is very important for girls to help their mother in the kitchen. Try to interest them and involve them in the exciting and, in fact, creative process of cooking. Bake pies and cookies with your daughter, let her chop boiled vegetables or peel a boiled egg, buy a bright apron for the girl.
• A boy can be involved in men's housework - for starters, he can simply hand tools to dad and learn to distinguish between them.
• Always praise your child for his help, even when he doesn’t succeed. This will create a positive emotional response, and in the future, housework will bring only joy. Imagine how much easier this will make your child’s life in the future when he becomes an adult!