III. A child is not a small adult

The best age for children: you are no longer leading them by the hand, and they are not yet leading you by the nose.

A child is a perpetual motion machine, and also a kicker, a jumper, a biter, a hugger and a strong kisser.

A sleeping baby is not only cute, but finally!

Children are the best alarm clock: set it once and for the rest of your life!

As dad said, it will be like mom’s way!

Happiness cannot be bought, but it can be born.

– Did you want a boy or a girl??? – Actually, we just wanted to relax...

Once you've done the job, go for a walk with your child.

Parents' devices are so simple that even children can operate them.

Little children left unattended quickly become little parents.

The child is the only thing in the house that has to be washed by hand.

To put a child on his feet, you need to remove him from your neck...

Children are interested in where everything comes from, and parents are interested in where everything goes.

Love does not necessarily mean children, but children do mean love.

Motherly love is the most common and most commonly understood example of productive love; its very essence is care and responsibility. (Unknown author)

Children listen most attentively when they are not being spoken to. (Unknown author)

Abandoned children often live with their parents. (Unknown author)

Divorce statistics show that parents run away from home more often than children. (Unknown author)

We teach our children first. Then we ourselves learn from them. Those who do not want to do this are behind their time. (Unknown author)

The baby is the only thing in the house that has to be washed by hand. (Unknown author)

No two children are alike - especially if one of them is yours. (Unknown author)

My son meditates - after all, it's better than sitting around. (Unknown author)

Children of fathers are always older than their parents: the age of the fathers is added to their age. (Unknown author)

Father and mother, dad and mom - these are the first two authorities on which the world is based for a child, that faith in life, in man, in everything honest, good and holy. (Unknown author)

Children are interested in the question: where does everything come from; adults – where does everything go? (Unknown author)

If kids love horror movies so much, why are they angry with their parents? (Unknown author)

There are three ways to do something: do it yourself, hire someone, or tell your kids not to do it. (Unknown author)

His first book was “ABC” - Morse. (Sergey Fedin)

She developed her imagination from childhood and became so imaginative (Sergei Fedin)

The most unnecessary discipline in teaching is caning. (Sergey Fedin)

The truth speaks through the mouth of a baby. It’s a pity that the pacifier makes it difficult to figure out what exactly it is. (Sergey Fedin)

The prison and school buildings are always recognizable. (Sergey Fedin)

Every child is a genius, but only child prodigies know it. (Sergey Fedin)

We are indebted to children because we teach them to count, and they teach us to be happy. (Sergey Fedin)

The motto of repeaters is: “Repetition is the mother of learning.” (Sergey Fedin)

One of the most important rights of a child is the right to solitude. (Sergey Fedin)

Growing up, children become adults or poets. (Sergey Fedin)

Children are a hundred times more mysterious
than UFOs and even Bigfoot. (Sergey Fedin)

Adults are children who have passed their expiration date. (Sergey Fedin)

Children are the offspring of the genius of genealogy. (znarim)

With the help of toys, a child develops, and with the help of a puppy, he is educated. (Valery Krasovsky)

If it weren't for the children, I wouldn't believe in aliens from the future. (Valery Krasovsky)

Storks throw children into cabbage. (Ilya Gerchikov)

“Children are the flowers of life,” well, if they don’t grow wild. (Ilya Gerchikov)

Don’t hit a child, so that you don’t take it out on your beloved grandchildren. (Ilya Gerchikov)

Do not assure the child that the stork brought it, so that he does not suspect you are impotent. (Ilya Gerchikov)

Children don't owe anyone anything! (Makarsky)

The child’s thought is egocentric, that is, the child thinks for himself, not caring either about being understood by others or about taking the point of view of another. (Jean Piaget)

Look at my children. My former freshness is alive in them. They are the justification for my old age. (William Shakespeare)

Anyone who does not remember his own childhood very clearly is a bad teacher. (Maria von Ebner-Eschenbach)

It often happens that if you are late to give an answer to a child, he does not wait for him and answers himself. (Jean Piaget)

Nothing acts in the young souls of children more powerfully than the universal power of example, and among all other examples, no one else impresses them more deeply and firmly than the example of their parents. (Nikolai Ivanovich Novikov)

Well, what are children? Handicraft. (Unknown author)

Our children are like our money: no matter how big they are, they always seem small. (Konstantin Melikhan)

What a pity that the offspring is unreasonable
Born from a sage:
Son does not inherit
Father's talent and knowledge. (Abu Abdallah Jafar Rudaki)

The natural love of parents for children must inevitably return from children to parents like grief, unless love for children contains a high guiding ideal. (Mikhail Mikhailovich Prishvin)

The main maternal capital is her children. (Konstantin Kushner)

You are young and dream of a child and marriage. But answer me: are you such that you have the right to desire a child?... Have you overcome yourself, are you the master of your feelings, are you the master of your virtues?... Or is it the animal and the need of your nature that speaks in your desire? Or loneliness? Or dissatisfaction with yourself? (Friedrich Nietzsche)

Many troubles have their roots precisely in the fact that from childhood a person is not taught to control his desires, he is not taught to correctly relate to the concepts of what is possible, what is necessary, and what is not. (Vasily Alexandrovich Sukhomlinsky)

Too good a childhood turns a child into an adult even faster than a bad one. (S. Lukyanenko)

If a child considers his parents to be wizards, it is partly because they themselves convinced him of this. (Eric Byrne)

The child does not know necessity - neither physical nor logical. (Jean Piaget)

Even giraffes do not allow them to sit on their parents' necks. (Konstantin Kushner)

Speaking of honor, speaking of truth, are you really honest and truthful? If not, then you will deceive an adult with your words, but you will not deceive a child; He will not listen to your words, but to your gaze, your spirit that possesses you. (Vladimir Fedorovich Odoevsky)

The child is the future. (Victor Marie Hugo)

If a child suddenly becomes obedient, the mother is seriously scared - maybe he is about to die. (Ralph Waldo Emerson)

The attitude towards children is an unmistakable measure of the spiritual dignity of people. (Ya.Bryl)

Parents are such simple devices that even children can operate them. (Unknown author)

Life for a child is one huge experiment. (Alfred Adler)

We should not be proud of children, we are worse than them. And if we teach them something to make them better, then they make us better by our contact with them. (Fedor Mikhailovich Dostoevsky)

Don't make children angry: whoever wants to hit as a child will want to kill when he grows up. (Pierre Buast)

Children are the flowers of life... I SELL SEEDS!! Selling and selling... But they are not for sale... We have to give them away for free... (Unknown author)

If you went to visit a friend, then the sight of his children, even before you entered the house, will tell you whether you are considered a friend. If the children greet you joyfully, you can be sure that your friend loves you and you are dear to him. But if his children did not come out to meet you, it means your friend does not want to see you. Then turn around and, without hesitation, return home. (Menander)

A devil's spawn is a child who acts like your own but was born into a neighbor's family. (Unknown author)

Parents are the bone on which children sharpen their teeth. (Peter Ustinov)

If children, fortunately, can forget about the adult world for a while, they will still be given over to this world in the end. (Georges Bataille)

Those who are tormented by orders the most are children. It’s amazing how they don’t break down under the pressure of orders and manage to survive the zeal of their teachers. (Elias Canetti)

CHILDREN are our living hope, which deceives us just as often as all other hopes. (V. Krachkovsky)

Children amuse themselves with one activity or another even when they are doing nothing. (Marcus Tullius Cicero)

Every child is born unlearned. It is the duty of parents to teach their children. (Catherine II)

Nothing surprises when everything surprises: this is the nature of a child. (Antoine de Rivarol)
Cruelty towards a child is an excess of punishment. (Konstantin Kushner)

The mistake of children is that they adhere to the truths of adults. (Georges Bataille)

Children shame us when they behave in public the way we behave at home. (Unknown author)

A child is a mirror of the family; Just as the sun is reflected in a drop of water, so the moral purity of the mother and father is reflected in the children. (Vasily Aleksandrovich Sukhomlinsky)

Children's definitions are always interesting, but their interpretation is difficult. (Jean Piaget)

For a child, everything good that he receives from his mother goes without saying. (Jacques Lacan)

Human customs and laws are such that if at the beginning of growth, in childhood, in the prime of youth, when the mind and understanding are very receptive and not overloaded, when talent and abilities are in their prime - if at this time a person does not comprehend anything in the sciences, then will not comprehend subsequently during a long life. (Muhammad Azzahiri As-Samarkandi)

There is no worse retribution for madness and delusions than to see your own children suffer because of them. (William Graham Sumner)

Children should not know how dear they are to those who raise them. (Robert Walser)

The children of a hero are not always heroes; it is even less likely that grandchildren will be heroes. (Ralph Waldo Emerson)

There are fathers with many children, and there are children with many fathers. (Valery Afonchenko)

Studying children's spontaneous questions is the best introduction to a child's logic. (Jean Piaget)

Mothers love their children more than fathers, because they are more sure that these are their children... (Aristotle)

In children's fantasies, there are almost always situations in which the child has power over someone. (Alfred Adler)

Poor is childhood that is sacrificed to mature years. (Wilhelm Dilthey)

Every word of an adult seems mysteriously meaningful to a child. (Lev Shestov)

Your child needs your love most precisely when he deserves it least. (Erma Bombeck)

It is very easy to encourage a child not to lie. (Ernst Simon Bloch)

We must strive to ensure that only wanted children are born, since it is cruel to give birth to an unwanted child who may become a victim of physical or mental abuse. (Karl Raimund Popper)

A healthy baby means a calm mother. (Tatiana Gruzdeva)

Wise parents instill morality in their children, because those who have knowledge of etiquette bring glory to the whole family. (Chanakya Pandit)

Respect... pure, clear, immaculate holy childhood! (Janusz Korczak (Henrik Goldschmidt))

You need to see a personality in every child, but how to discern it? (Konstantin Kushner)

If “men are big children,” then women are small children. (Unknown author)

It’s no wonder that the sons are rich in knowledge,
Which were raised by a wise father. (Abulqasim Ferdowsi)

Children do not choose their parents. They love them for who they are. (Unknown author)

A chicken's eggs don't fall far. (Unknown author)

Children with depressed feelings are, as a rule, children with depressed intellect and impoverished thoughts. Where there is no free manifestation of feelings, a collective spiritual impulse, a collective experience of an idea, is not conceivable. (Vasily Alexandrovich Sukhomlinsky)

Parents love their children with an anxious and condescending love that spoils them. There is another love, attentive and calm, which makes them honest. And this is the true love of a father. (Denis Diderot)

And there will be a holiday on our street if children are not allowed to live on the street. (Konstantin Kushner)

Don't have careless children. (Baltasar Gracian y Morales)

Among lower peoples, naturalization is the simplest operation. The child does not continue the old age or maturity of his parents, but their own childhood. (Emile Durkheim)

No one has ever managed to grow up without making mistakes. (Alfred Adler)

If the mother sees that the child has done well, she must certainly praise him, express her approval to him and thereby please his heart. (Abdu'l-Baha)

Give children the opportunity to make mistakes. You give them life, but you have no rights to it. (Olga Anina)

Man and woman are completed only in the married couple, and the married couple is completed only in the child. (Emmanuel Mounier)

Children are fruits that do not see roots. (Gennady Malkin)

The child begins to speak long before he utters his first word. (Oswald Spengler)

Having lost our superiority over children for some reason, for the same reason we cannot regain it. (Unknown author)

It’s good when you have children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren, but it’s bad if this is the only thing you have. (Unknown author)

Only that in a person is strong and reliable that was absorbed into his nature in the first period of life. (Jan Amos Comenius)

The child shows gratitude to his parents with obedience and respect. (Ekaterina II Alekseevna)

Youth is terrible: it is a stage on which children walk in high buskins and in all kinds of costumes and pronounce memorized words that they only half understand, but to which they are fanatically devoted. And history is scary because it so often becomes a playground for minors; a playground for young Nero, a playground for young Napoleon, a playground for fanatical hordes of children whose borrowed passions and primitive roles suddenly turn into a catastrophically real reality... (Milan Kundera)

The best and most irrefutable evidence of our uniqueness are our children. (Valery Afonchenko)

Childhood should be given the greatest respect. (Decimus Junius Juvenal)

We must do with children the same as God does with us: He makes us happiest when He allows us to run from side to side in joyful delusion. (Johann Wolfgang Goethe)

If I were given a choice: to populate the earth with such saints as I can imagine, but without children, or with people like now, but with children, I would choose the latter. (Lev Nikolaevich Tolstoy)

Only a real child’s heart attacks fresh thoughts, never beaten and abused. (Robert Walser)

Only a child who knows how to take care of his desires is able to fully experience the joy of communicating with comrades, is able to discover in people - from his teachers, comrades - new and new wealth and values. (Vasily Alexandrovich Sukhomlinsky)

Children are always willing to do something. This is very useful, and therefore not only should it not be interfered with, but measures must be taken to ensure that they always have something to do. (Jan Amos Comenius)

Children often start stealing when they feel deprived of something very important to their lives. (Alfred Adler)

If your son emerges from adolescence impudent and shameless, prone to theft and lies, make him a gladiator. Give him a sword or knife in his hands and pray to God that he will soon be torn to pieces by animals or killed. For if he remains alive, then because of his vices you will perish. Don't expect anything good from him. Better let the bad son die. (Menander)

Someone whom the child does not love has no right to punish a child. (John Locke)

Childhood illnesses plague parents the most. (B. Bartashevich)

The song that a mother sings at the cradle accompanies a person all his life, until the grave. (Henry Ward Beecher)

You will never be able to create wise men if you kill naughty children. (Jean-Jacques Rousseau)

It is the immutable duty of parents to bring up their children in a spirit of unshakable faith, for a child cut off from the Divine religion will not seek to gain the favor of his parents and his Lord. (Baha'u'llah)

If the child does not feel that your house belongs to him too, he will make the street his home. (Nadine de Rothschild)

Children are the pinnacle of a healthy marriage. (Rudolf Neubert)

First we part with childhood, and then with youth. (Lucius Annaeus Seneca (younger))

Allowing yourself to make fun of children is almost a crime. (Alfred Adler)

All the children in the world cry in the same language. (Leonid Maksimovich Leonov)

A child learns to believe many things. (Ludwig Wittgenstein)

Children multiply our everyday worries and anxieties, but at the same time, thanks to them, death does not seem so terrible to us. (Francis Bacon)

How often do parents truly love their children, how rarely do children truly appreciate parental love. (Ilya Shevelev)

A beautiful child means a happy mother. (Tatiana Gruzdeva)

Children are our joy if they are healthy, smart and beautiful! (Unknown author)

Children are holy and pure. Even among robbers and crocodiles they are in the rank of angels. We ourselves can climb into any hole we want, but they must be enveloped in an atmosphere suitable for their rank. You can’t be obscene with impunity in their presence... you can’t make them the toy of your mood: either gently kiss them, or madly stamp your feet on them... (Anton Pavlovich Chekhov)

Children are the flowers of life, collect a bouquet and give it to your grandmother. (Unknown author)

The joy of word creation is the most accessible intellectual spirituality for a child. (Vasily Alexandrovich Sukhomlinsky)

Life is short, but a person lives it again in his children. (Anatole France (Thibault))

Children love everyone, especially those who love and caress them. (Lev Nikolaevich Tolstoy)

A child gives birth to parents. (Stanislav Jerzy Lec)

The child has his own special ability to see, think and feel; there is nothing more stupid than trying to replace this skill with ours. (Jean-Jacques Rousseau)

A father loves his child because it is his birth; but he must still love him as a future person. Only such love for children is true and worthy of being called love. Any other kind is egoism, cold self-love. (Vissarion Grigorievich Belinsky)

It’s good to be a child, where you put him, he grows there. (Tzviya Yitzchok)

A child has a lot to learn before he can pretend. (Ludwig Wittgenstein)

A child who suffers less insults grows up to be more self-aware of his dignity. (Nikolai Gavrilovich Chernyshevsky)

When a child is frightened, spanked and upset in every possible way, then from a very young age he begins to feel lonely. (Dmitry Ivanovich Pisarev)

The advantage of a large family is that at least one child may not follow in the footsteps of the others. (Unknown author)

Every person is always someone's child. (Pierre Augustin Caron Beaumarchais)

The years of childhood are, first of all, the education of the heart. (Vasily Alexandrovich Sukhomlinsky)

Never lay a hand on your child. You're leaving your groin exposed. (Unknown author)

A child is a reward for a woman and payback for a man. (Konstantin Melikhan)

“The sons are mine, the wealth is mine,” - this is how the fool suffers. He doesn't belong to himself. Where are the sons from? Where does the wealth come from? (Dhammapada)

In very early childhood, heroic feelings should already be instilled, tuning the soul to deeds of love and nobility. And does history provide few examples of heroes? (Nikolai Vasilievich Shelgunov)

What a commission, creator, to be a father to an adult daughter! (Alexander Sergeevich Griboyedov)

If people say bad things about your children, it means they are saying bad things about you. (Vasily Alexandrovich Sukhomlinsky)

Everything that a child sees and hears is a family sown in his soul. There it sprouts and then bears fruit. (Miguel de Unamuno)

Each child should be applied to his own standard, encouraged to his own responsibility, and rewarded with his own deserved praise. It is not success, but effort that deserves reward. (John Ruskin)

Children should live in a world of beauty, games, fairy tales, music, drawing, fantasy, and creativity. (Vasily Alexandrovich Sukhomlinsky)

Our flowers of life often turn into bouquets that are unpredictable for us. (Leonid S. Sukhorukov)

It’s curious: with each generation, children are getting worse, and parents are getting better; It follows from this that increasingly bad children grow into increasingly good parents. (Wladislav Brudzinski)

Do not make an idol out of a child: when he grows up, he will require many sacrifices. (Pierre Buast)

Mutual love is cemented by children. (Menander)

Children amuse themselves with one activity or another even when they are doing nothing. (Cicero Marcus Tullius)

Boys are boys, they look at boyish things in a boyish way. (Unknown author)

A respectful son is one who upsets his father and mother only with his illness. (Confucius (Kung Tzu))

It does not happen that humane children abandon their parents. (Mengzi)

If you don't know what your children are like, look at their friends. (Xunzi)

It is no wonder that the sons who are raised by a wise father are rich in knowledge. (Firdousi)

If the sickle of death is inexorable, leave descendants to argue with it! (William Shakespeare)

He who has no children sacrifices death. (Francis Bacon)

When the son cursed, Diogenes hit his father. (Robert Burton)

There are children who are sharp-minded and inquisitive, but wild and stubborn. They are usually hated in schools and are almost always considered hopeless; Meanwhile, great people usually come out of them, if only they are educated properly. (Jan Amos Comenius)

When you are among children, you should be on guard, as if they were not your own children, but sworn enemies. (George Saville Halifax)

Children have neither a past nor a future, but unlike us adults, they know how to use the present. (Jean le Labruyère)

Children need to be treated gently because punishment hardens them. (Charles Louis Montesquieu)

The child has his own special ability to see, think and feel; there is nothing more stupid than trying to replace this skill with ours. (Jean Jacques Rousseau)

Raise your children in virtue: it is the only one that can give happiness. (Ludwig van Beethoven)

True, children must - while they remain children - be guided by parental authority, but at the same time they must be prepared to not always remain children. (Christoph Martin Wieland)

Of all generally immoral relationships, treating children as slaves is the most immoral. (Georg Wilhelm Friedrich Hegel)

Everything is good and beautiful in harmony, in accordance with itself. Unnaturally and prematurely developed children are moral monsters. Any precocious maturity is similar to childhood molestation. (Vissarion Grigorievich Belinsky)

A father loves his child because it is his birth; but he must still love him as a future person. Only such love for children is true and worthy of being called love; every other one is egoism, cold self-love. (Vissarion Grigorievich Belinsky)

Let the child play pranks and play pranks, as long as his pranks and pranks are not harmful and do not bear the imprint of physical and moral cynicism. (Vissarion Grigorievich Belinsky)

If one cannot see the ideal of moral perfection in children, then at least one cannot but agree that they are incomparably more moral than adults. (Nikolai Alexandrovich Dobrolyubov)

Without children it would be impossible to love humanity so much. (Fedor Mikhailovich Dostoevsky)

A person who truly respects human personality must respect it in his child, starting from the moment when the child felt his “I” and separated himself from the world around him. (Dmitry Ivanovich Pisarev)

For children who are teething, I can safely recommend orris root! (Kozma Prutkov)

Never promise a child what you cannot keep, and never deceive him. (Konstantin Dmitrievich Ushinsky)

Children immediately and naturally become accustomed to happiness, because by their very nature they are joy and happiness. (Victor Marie Hugo)

There is no hymn on earth more solemn than the babbling of children's lips. (Victor Marie Hugo)

How terrible the world would be if children were not constantly born, bringing with them innocence and the possibility of every perfection! (John Ruskin)

The charm of children lies in the fact that with each child everything is renewed and the world is presented anew to human judgment. (Gilbert Keith Chesterton)

A child's character is a copy of the parents' character; it develops in response to their character. (Erich Fromm)

A child is a rational being; he knows well the needs, difficulties and obstacles of his life. (Janusz Korczak)

A stubborn child is the result of the mother's unreasonable behavior. (Janusz Korczak)

Rely on yourself. There are two strong anchors in life - work and children. All other adversities can be endured. (Nikolai Mikhailovich Amosov)

Children are the living flowers of the earth... (Maxim Gorky)

Children are our judges of tomorrow, they are critics of our views and actions, they are people who go into the world for the great work of building new forms of life. (Maksim Gorky)

Love for a child, like any great love, becomes creativity and can give the child lasting, true happiness when it enhances the scope of the lover’s life, makes him a full-fledged person, and does not turn the beloved being into an idol. (Felix Edmundovich Dzerzhinsky)

Children teach adults not to become completely immersed in a task and to remain free. (Mikhail Mikhailovich Prishvin)

The “natural” love of parents for children must inevitably return from children to parents as grief, unless love for children contains a high guiding ideal. (Mikhail Mikhailovich Prishvin)

All the charm of children for us, their special, human charm is inextricably linked with the hope that they will not be like us, they will be better than us. (Vladimir Sergeevich Solovyov)

Be truthful even towards a child: keep your promise, otherwise you will teach him to lie. (Lev Nikolaevich Tolstoy)

If we asked ourselves who the strongest people in our culture are, the logical answer would be babies. Babies rule without being ruled. (Alfred Adler)

Every spoiled child has his share of being an outcast. (Alfred Adler)

Every child is at risk of developing in the wrong direction. (Alfred Adler)

We do not pretend that we can turn any child into a so-called “talented individual,” but we can always turn him into a “mediocre” adult. (Alfred Adler)

No child likes to be the smallest and least capable all the time. (Alfred Adler)

A child learns by believing an adult. Doubt comes after faith. (Ludwig Wittgenstein)

A child under no circumstances wants to be recognized in disguise. (Hans Georg Gadamer)

Children assume that each of their thoughts is the thought of all others, that everyone can read and understand it, even if it is not expressed quite clearly. (Jean Piaget)

Which aphorism is closer to you, we are waiting for your answer in the comments!

Khmelnitskaya Olga

Safe advice for parents
Oh, how grown-up we are, how smart we are, how experienced! And our children are so small, stupid, and don’t really know life yet. But all our adulthood, all our intelligence and experience are worth nothing if we cause even one child’s tears.

Where does childhood go?

Don't we know that it is wrong to offend the weak? But a child is weaker than any adult. Have we forgotten that emphasizing our superiority is unworthy?

Why do we constantly emphasize it when communicating with children?! Haven't we been taught that in any conflict there is no right? So why do we never admit our guilt in our conflicts with children?!

Why is there such a gap between parents and children? How was it formed? Didn't adults create it? Who have we become as we grow up? And where did our childhood go?

Close your eyes and imagine yourself as a child. You were one once, do you remember that?! Do you remember what you wanted most when you were little? And remember, were your parents happy with you? However, you don’t have to worry, I’ll remind you myself. Your parents were unhappy with you (even if not all the time, but often enough), but you wanted something that was absolutely impossible.

Little adults

When the trees were big and the adults were small, everything in their lives was different. The little adults ran, jumped and screamed loudly, and it was completely unbearable for them to walk on tiptoe and talk in a whisper. Little adults wanted to play, walk, watch cartoons and absolutely did not want to study. Little adults soiled and tore their clothes, did not clean up after themselves, and tried in every possible way to evade their parents’ instructions. In general, little adults lived their children's lives and did not understand why all the adults around them - parents, teachers, neighbors and all other older people - were so insistently claiming their lives.

When the trees were big and the adults were small, they swore to themselves:

“Noooo, I will never behave like that with my child.” But time is a tricky thing. When little adults grew up and became just adults (moreover, parents), they forgot about their childhood oath. And now their children swear to themselves: “Noooo, I’m with my child...”

13 harmless tips

Tip 1.

Both kindness and severity at the same time.

Most often, parents represent one of the extremes: either immensely kind or strict to the point of dictatorship. Both are dangerous positions. The first leads to permissiveness, which means it will not develop in the child the ability to manage himself and find compromises in communicating with others. The second extreme suppresses the child's dignity and will lead to children's rebellion for the sake of rebellion at the expense of common sense. If children were asked how they see ideal parents, they would answer exactly like this: strict, but kind.

Tip 2.

Don’t tell “how to do it”, but ask.

As a child, did you love your parents’ long and detailed lectures? Even if they understood that they were right? I'm sure not. When parents say the right words, they take away their children’s right to think and analyze for themselves.

A thousand clever phrases of adults are nothing compared to one, conscious and formulated by the child himself. If you want your child to act differently in the future, let him analyze what happened himself.

Tip 3.

Stop humiliating children.

How easy it is to fly into a room angry and, seeing toys scattered, sarcastically: “You cleaned the room, right?!” - and convict the child of something not done. But by doing so you humiliate him. And do you seriously believe that humiliation is the best way to achieve results? Even the most noble goal does not justify ignoble means. By the way, remember what you felt towards adults who humiliated you? Do you want your child to have similar feelings towards you?

Tip 4.

Always leave room for choice.

When there is no choice, violence acts - submission to someone's will, in this case the will of the parents. The child must learn to obey his own will, and for this he needs to have a choice and make decisions himself. To prevent him from making a decision that is completely unacceptable to you, offer a choice of options that suit you. A small trick, but a situation of choice will be created.

Tip 5.

Trust the child.

If a child doesn’t know how to do something, does something wrong, or doesn’t want to do something at all, this does not mean that this will always be the case. Again, look at yourself, you don’t paint the walls of your apartment anymore and don’t get wet while eating?

Have you outgrown it somehow? The time will come, and your child will also do everything as it should. Moreover, this will not necessarily change in many years; everything can change tomorrow or even in an hour. The main thing is not to get attached to a bad result that has already happened. Live one step ahead and create an atmosphere of belief in good things.

Tip 6.

Take breaks.

Never demand instant performance from your child. After the educational moment there should be a pause. Leave him alone. Even say, “I hope you won’t upset me anymore.” As if letting him know that you are not sure what he will do. Do you think this is an unnecessary game?

Then model the same situation from your own childhood. I am ready to admit that the game is not worth the candle if you say that, as a child, you happily rushed “under the gun” of your parents to fulfill their request. But most likely, standing “at gunpoint”, you thought: “Okay, that’s enough, I understand, I’ll do everything, but not right away.”

Tip 7.

Everyone has the right to make mistakes.

A child should not be afraid to make mistakes. Making a mistake is not scary if such experience teaches you something. Let the child, with your help, learn to analyze his mistakes. But most importantly, he must know for sure that the mistake he made will not take your love away from him, that you will be lenient. After expressing your attitude towards the mistake, forgive the child. Remember how many times you wanted not to be scolded, not to explain anything, but simply to be forgiven!

Tip 8.

Love is a free feeling.

If you love a child and care for him, then he is not obliged to respond to you with love and care. And there should be no reproaches about this.

Otherwise, your feelings immediately turn into selfish ones, and this is terrible. And is it a worthy occupation to demand reciprocity? This is not alms. In addition, your opinion of how your child treats you is not the child's true attitude. Of course he loves you. Just like you always loved your parents. But didn't they reproach you for not showing your feelings enough?

Tip 9.

Don't give or accept empty promises.

Many adults certainly love to extract from a child: “I won’t do it again!” And they easily say: “Yes, yes, we’ll definitely go tomorrow.” How many times did you say and hear similar phrases as a child? And how often did you then reproach each other: “You promised!” Do not teach children that they can get rid of each other with words that have no meaning behind them.

Tip 10.

Be emotionally honest with your children.

The worst thing is when the emotions that we splash out on children are the consequence of completely different emotions that do not relate to them. For example, we were offended, we are in a bad mood, something is not working out for us - and the child who came up with his request at the wrong time became a lightning rod into which we “discharged.” It's just a crime. Remember how, as a child, you acutely felt such moments of injustice, like a lump came to your throat, and you thought so bitterly: “Well, why?!”

Tip 11.

Saving sense of humor.

When it seems to you that your relationship with your child has reached a dead end (or better yet, at the very beginning of a conflict situation), find a reason to joke. And you will see how a stubborn, harmful, evil monster - a creature alien to you - will again become your dear sun, bunny, cat. And you, too, will turn from a monster into a mommy-daddy for him.

Tip 12.

Time to be together.

You and your child will not be happy with each other if you do not devote time to him! And not when you need to check homework or order him to go wash. This should be a time in which you can just be together - whisper, hug, take a walk. The time of love and tenderness is such aimless free time, unless, of course, love and tenderness are considered the goal.

Tip 13.

Everyone has their own life.

Your children are your children. And, of course, they are your continuation. And yet they are not you. They won't be the way you want them to be. They will be whatever they want. Help them “continue” you by becoming themselves.

Can you say it better?! And what else can I add to this?! Only how you will live with your child after all of the above.

Here are 40 things that children have done, are doing and will do. And we, adults, will envy them. Because we can no longer afford it, although sometimes we really want to. Just imagine if you could do all these wonderful things!

1. Climbing under mom's side at night because there is a beech tree living under the bed. Now there are thoughts about an unfinished report and winter clothes that have not been dry-cleaned. And there is nowhere to escape about them.

2. Try something new every day and be surprised. Now even a two-headed moose cannot surprise us, which is what they won’t show on this Internet.

3. Address elders first name. The framework of education in general has greatly narrowed our possibilities.

4. Make obscene noises in front of everyone and sincerely think it's funny. And don't even blush!

5. Tell others what you think about them, without making enemies and the image of a city madwoman.

6. Look cute even in a bib and covered in food. And in a raincoat. And other strange things.

7. Eat only macaroni and cheese for breakfast, lunch and dinner.. After a month, declare that you hate cheese. For the next month I will eat mashed potatoes. No lumps.

8. Walk at the dacha on a rainy day wearing only shorts and rubber boots. Feel like a supermodel.

9. Put on your mother’s slip, climb on a stool and sing songs into a bottle of hairspray. Gathering the whole family for these impromptu concerts.

10. Roll around on the floor in wool socks and say that you are a figure skater. Leaning on the table, stand on your toes, do a swallow and consider yourself a ballerina.

11. Sitting on the potty in front of the TV and watch cartoons. Then scream heart-rendingly, “Mom, I’m done!”

12. Falling asleep in dad's arms, knowing that they will inform you, undress you and put you to bed. And five minutes after you put him to bed, you get up and say that you slept well and don’t even get hit in the neck.

13. Sitting in the bathtub for three hours with a bunch of toys, and then demand to get swimming goggles because you decided to set a new record for holding your breath underwater. And mom should stand next to you and count how many seconds you can dive for.

14. Completely fill your phone memory with your photos literally in ten minutes. Be offended when mom later deletes them from her phone.

15. Laugh if the cat misses the turn while running and crashes into the wall. Then you will feel sorry for a long time and kiss the crazy cat, and fall asleep with him in your arms.

16. It’s delicious to smell like a sparrow after an active day and before taking a shower. However, we can’t do this even after a shower, so what?

17. Learn to reach your nose with your big toe and be happy about it all day long. Demonstrate a new skill to everyone who comes into view.

18. Staring curiously at people on public transport. And most importantly, people smile in response!

19. Sleep every day after lunch for 2 hours. And also be unhappy about it.

20. Make faces and tease if you don’t like someone. Also show your tongue. How much easier it would be to communicate with some colleagues!

21. Move around the apartment only by crawling. If halfway from the room to the kitchen you are tired, lie down to rest in the dog basket.

22. Play hospital and hair salon with dolls. Having found out that the dolls' hair will not grow back, she bursts into tears so bitterly that her mother immediately rushes to the nearest store to buy a new doll.

23. Smile for any reason and be happy for no reason. Be surprised if there is someone nearby who is sad.

24. Make new friends by starting a conversation with the phrase “What’s your name? I’m Masha. Let’s be friends?”. And that’s it, you are already friends, don’t spill water.

25. Refuse to take off your ball gown, even sleep in it, because you've been dreaming about it for so long.

26. Play cat by stuffing the fur from your winter jacket into your tights. Everyone must admire and say “kitty-kitty-kitty”, otherwise you’re not playing!

27. “Pinch” mom’s face with your palms and force her to speak in a funny voice. Dying laughing at how she looks.

28. Build a house from a bedspread and sofa cushions. Ask mom to bring milk and cookies there. Eating it all by the light of a flashlight, imagining that a blizzard is raging outside the walls.

29. Jump into every puddle on the way to kindergarten. You won’t notice how wet your feet are and you’ll be terribly surprised why your mother is grumbling.

30. Wait for gifts “from the bunny” when mom and dad come home from work. And this bunny never failed.

I asked this question to two dozen friends and acquaintances. In addition, I found several online discussions where people answered the same question.

“When did I become an adult? - my friend asked. - It's very simple. One day I was walking down the street and suddenly realized that I was in no hurry to watch the cartoons “Chip and Dale” - they were shown on TV every Sunday.”

“I quarreled with my father, left home, sold my cell phone, rented an apartment and began to somehow live,” one person wrote on the forum, “found a job, got a girlfriend. That’s when I was selling a mobile phone, and I realized that everything I had already grown up.”

The most popular answers were: when I received my first salary, smoked my first cigarette, lost my virginity. In a word, when I tried on some attribute of adult life for the first time.

The second most common answers were those related to responsibility. It is logical to feel like an adult when you take responsibility for another person. For example, when you start helping your parents with money. Or when you have a child.

But one of my friends (she already had a three-year-old daughter) ended up in the maternity hospital again. And when she was asked if she agreed to stimulate contractions, she thought like this: “Sonya will wake up soon, she needs to cook porridge. And in general, how is it that I will now decide for myself whether this stimulation is needed or not. Mom is sleeping."

I remembered myself when I was given this bundle with a red baby, which in some incomprehensible way later turned into my youngest daughter. I didn’t think then either: that’s it, so I became an adult. Then I thought: damn, why is she so red?

And then I realized that I was asking the question wrong.

I once wrote a very cool phrase: “The scary thing is not that we are adults, but that adults are, in fact, us.”

This is actually what I needed to ask about. This is the most interesting thing.

I already had two children, but when I had to take a box of chocolates to the head of the kindergarten, I still thought that I would ask my mother.

And one day I was baking pancakes. The children were running around the house, spinning underfoot, music was playing, it was already May, and the window was open. And suddenly I turned around and saw how the eldest daughter was slowly pulling the pancake out of the stack. And I say: “Uh-uh-uh, don’t carry pancakes before breakfast!” That's exactly what my grandmother always told me. Well, that’s it, I think now it’s definitely “we are the adults.”

This is the most interesting thing. Not when you felt like an adult guy with a mustache, but when you realized that there was no other adult guy with a mustache behind you. In other words, that you are the most important here. That's what I really wanted to know.

So now I want to correct myself and do my survey again. Please answer, do you remember the moment when you realized that adults are, in fact, you?

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Quotes and Aphorisms 21.04.2018

Dear readers, if you have children, then when asked what is most important to you in life, you know what to answer. And despite the fact that with the appearance of children in our lives, we acquire a lot of new problems and difficulties that we have not encountered before, along with this, children fill our lives with meaning and great love.

Quotes and aphorisms about children succinctly and accurately express feelings and thoughts associated with childhood and children. And, perhaps, the main idea is that, first of all, they give us the opportunity to become better.

We all come from childhood

“All adults were once children. Only few people remember this,” said Antoine de Saint-Exupéry. Quotes about children will help us remember the feeling of lightness and fullness of life that we experienced in childhood.

“Children are younger than us, they still remember how they too were trees and birds and therefore are still able to understand them; We’re too old, we have too many worries, and our heads are full of jurisprudence and bad poetry.”

Heinrich Heine

“It’s only a step from a five-year-old child to me. There is a terrible distance from the newborn to me.”

Lev Tolstoy

“Moving away from the conditions of society and approaching nature, we involuntarily become children: everything acquired falls away from the soul, and it becomes again the same as it once was and, probably, will be someday again.”

Mikhail Lermontov

“Be yourself both man and child, so that you can teach the child.”

Vladimir Odoevsky

“Every child is partly a genius, and every genius is partly a child.”

Arthur Schopenhauer

“In each of us there is still a three-year-old child who is scared, who just wants a little love.”

Louise Hay

“A great man is one who has not lost his childish heart.”

Mencius

Ah, childhood, your days are pure, like frames from an old film...

Quotes and aphorisms about children with meaning indicate that children are not just little people who are just beginning to experience life, but also a chance for our world to become a little brighter and kinder.

“Children are the reason why heaven has not yet destroyed the world.”

Moritz-Gottlieb Safir

“How terrible the world would be if children were not constantly born, bringing with them innocence and the possibility of all perfection!”

John Ruskin

“Your children are not your children. They appear through you, but not from you. You can give them your love, but not your thoughts, because they have their thoughts. You can give a home to their bodies, but not to their souls. You are only bows from which living arrows are sent forward, which you call your children.”

Gibran Kahlil Gibran

“There is no hymn on earth more solemn than the babbling of children’s lips.”

Victor Hugo

“There are no children, there are people. But with a different scale of concepts, a different store of experience, different drives, a different play of feelings.”

Janusz Korczak

“Children’s play often has deep meaning.”

Friedrich Schiller

“Nature wants children to be children before they are adults. If we want to disrupt this order, we will produce early-ripening fruits that will have neither ripeness nor taste and will not slow down in deterioration.”

Jean-Jacques Rousseau

Children are happiness, children are joy...

Very often happiness comes to our home with the birth of a child. And life changes completely along with this, it becomes different, it makes you look at yourself, other people, and the world around you in a new way. And we begin to see what we have not seen before. Quotes and aphorisms about children and happiness so vividly describe the joy that children bring into our lives.

“Children immediately and naturally become accustomed to happiness, because they themselves, by their nature, are joy and happiness.”

Victor Hugo

“Children multiply our everyday worries and anxieties, but at the same time, thanks to them, death does not seem so terrible to us.”

Francis Bacon

“Children are the anchors that hold a mother in life.”

Sophocles

“A child is love made visible.”

Novalis

“Children are happiness that grows over the years.”

“Happiness cannot be bought. But he can be born.”

“I take your hand in my hand and kiss the crown on your wrist. It was not in vain that I suffered to give birth to such happiness.”

“The day begins with happiness, happiness rose before everyone else. Happiness smiles at mom, turning her smile into laughter.”

“When children are born, order, money, peace, relaxation disappear in the house - and happiness comes.”

“Only when you have children do you understand that there is a life that is more valuable than your own.”

Children are the flowers of life

The quote by Antoine de Saint-Exupery that children are flowers of life that are born with their heads down is familiar to everyone. Maxim Gorky called children “the living flowers of the earth.” Because a child is a vessel filled to the brim with trust in this world. Children decorate our lives and give it meaning.

“Children are holy and pure. You can’t make them the plaything of your mood.”

Anton Chekhov

“The child’s state of mind runs through our entire lives - it is this that prompts us to seek the meaning of life, to seek God.”

Vladimir Levi

“In the theater of life, the only real spectators are children.”

Vladislav Grzeszczyk

“Without children it would be impossible to love humanity so much.”

Fedor Dostoevsky

“Children are the living force of society. Without them it seems bloodless and cold.”

Anton Makarenko

“I am sure that if you had to choose to live where the noise of children does not stop for a minute, or where it is never heard, then all normal and healthy people would prefer incessant noise to incessant silence.”

Bernard Show

Only one world is limitless - childhood

There are many beautiful quotes and aphorisms about children. They contain all the wisdom and the very essence of such a magical time of human life as childhood.

“Children have neither a past nor a future, but, unlike us adults, they know how to use the present.”

Jean de La Bruyère

“Children are our judges of tomorrow, they are critics of our views and actions, they are people who go into the world for the great work of building new forms of life.”

Maksim Gorky

“Children teach adults not to become completely immersed in something and to remain free.”

Mikhail Prishvin

“The child has his own special ability to see, think and feel; there is nothing more stupid than trying to replace this skill with ours.”

“You will never be able to create wise men if you kill naughty children.”

Jean-Jacques Rousseau

“We teach our children first. Then we ourselves learn from them.”

Jan Rainis

“Take care of the tears of your children so that they may shed them at your grave.”

Pythagoras

“Children’s charm lies in the fact that with each child everything is renewed and the world appears anew for human judgment.”

Gilbert Keith Chesterton

“Tell something to the children - all the way to the end. But they will certainly ask: “What next? What for?" Children are the only brave philosophers.”

Evgeny Zamyatin

The purpose of education is the development of the child

Quotes about parenting give an idea of ​​what exactly it should involve and when it is most effective. After all, education is not only and not so much moral teaching and reading morals, but the ability to understand what children really need and provide them with the opportunity for further development.

“Preaching from the pulpit, captivating from the platform, teaching from the pulpit is much easier than raising one child.”

Alexander Herzen

“Education means nourishing the child’s abilities, and not creating those new abilities that he does not have.”

Giuseppe Mazzini

“A child needs your love most when he deserves it least.”

Erma Bombeck

“Let the child’s first lesson be obedience, then the second may be what you consider necessary.”

Thomas Fuller

“Children need role models more than criticism.”

Joseph Joubert

“All the difficulties of upbringing arise from the fact that parents, not only not correcting their shortcomings, but also justifying them in themselves, want not to see these shortcomings in their children.”

Lev Tolstoy

“Don’t make an idol out of a child; when he grows up, he will demand sacrifices.”

Pierre Buast

“Do you know what the surest way to make your child unhappy? This is to teach him not to refuse anything.”

Jean-Jacques Rousseau

“Parenting is the most difficult thing. You think – well, it’s all over now! No such luck – it’s just beginning!”

Mikhail Lermontov

“Parents often confuse the concepts of “upbringing” and “education” and think that they have given their child an upbringing when they have forced him to study so many subjects. Hence the frequent disappointment of parents in their children in subsequent years.”

Anton Rubinstein

“Sow an action and you will reap a habit; sow a habit and you will reap a character; sow a character and you will reap a destiny.”

William Thackeray

“If you want to raise good children, spend half as much money and twice as much time on them.”

Sukhomlinsky about children and their upbringing

The great teacher Vasily Aleksandrovich Sukhomlinsky dedicated his life to children. Tips on how to discern the personality in a child are reflected in Sukhomlinsky’s quotes on raising children. They will never lose their relevance.

“The most important feature of pedagogical culture should be a feeling for the spiritual world of each child, the ability to give each as much attention and spiritual strength as necessary for the child to feel that he is not forgotten, that his grief, his grievances and suffering are shared.”

“Only he can become a real teacher who never forgets that he himself was a child.”

“By raising your child, you are raising yourself, asserting your human dignity.”

“Children don’t need to be told a lot, don’t stuff them with stories; words are not fun, but verbal satiety is one of the most harmful satiations. The child needs not only to listen to the teacher’s word, but also to remain silent; in these moments he thinks, comprehends what he heard and saw. We must not turn children into passive objects of perception of words.”

“Let your pupil be rebellious, self-willed - this is incomparably better than silent obedience and lack of will.”

“Where everything is based on punishment, there is no self-education, and without self-education, education in general cannot be normal. It cannot, because punishment already frees the pupil from remorse, and conscience is the main engine of self-education; where conscience sleeps, there can be no question of self-education. The one who has received punishment thinks: I have nothing more to think about my action, I got what was due.”

“A child is a mirror of the family; Just as the sun is reflected in a drop of water, so the moral purity of the mother and father is reflected in the children.”

Personality education according to Makarenko

The brilliant teacher Anton Semenovich Makarenko had his own view on raising children. His methodology was criticized and persecuted, however, according to UNESCO, he is one of the four people who had the strongest influence on modern pedagogical science. Makarenko’s quotes about raising children show his vision of how to raise a full-fledged personality.

“Your own behavior is the most decisive thing. Do not think that you are raising a child only when you talk to him, or teach him, or order him. You raise him at every moment of your life, even when you are not at home.”

“The educational process is a constantly ongoing process, and its individual details are resolved in the general tone of the family, and the general tone cannot be invented and artificially maintained. The general tone, dear parents, is created by your own life and your own behavior.”

“Do you want to corrupt the soul of your child? Then don’t refuse him anything. And over time you will understand that you are not raising a person, but a crooked tree.”

“Concentrating love on one child is a terrible delusion.”

“If at home you are rude, or boastful, or drunk, and even worse, if you insult your mother, you no longer need to think about education: you are already raising your children, and raising them poorly, and none of the best advice and methods will help you.” .

“So we all invent educational systems: this is how we should educate, this way... But in fact, parents and educators have one task: to keep the child’s nervous system safe and sound by the age of 18. Life will put such a burden on his shoulders that his nerves will need to be intact, and we tear them to shreds from an early age...”

Quotes about children and parents

The relationship between parents and children is not always cloudless. And if you are faced with the problem of fathers and children, let's remember that it is we, parents, who contributed to their emergence to a large extent. Children are our reflection, and this idea is clearly visible in quotes about children and parents.

“Children and parents are birds of a feather, but grown at different times.”

Natalya Rozbitskaya

“How often do children hear that they should be grateful to their parents. Because they spent their entire lives on them, didn’t sleep at night, and simply because they gave birth to them... Have you ever wondered how much children give to their parents? Real love, joy, hope... How often, next to a child, we feel smart and omnipotent. A child gives us a sense of self-worth. So maybe we shouldn’t expect gratitude from children, because they gave us no less?”

“Children rarely misinterpret our words. They repeat, amazingly accurately, everything we shouldn’t have said.”

“It’s curious: with each generation, children are getting worse, and parents are getting better; It follows from this that increasingly good parents grow up from worse children.”

Wieslaw Brudzinski

“Parents least of all forgive their children those vices that they themselves instilled in them.”

Johann Friedrich Schiller

“When children baffle their father, he sends them to the corner.”

Valery Mironov

“Children never obeyed adults, but they always imitated them.”

James Baldwin

“When you finally realize that your father was usually right, you yourself have a son growing up convinced that his father is usually wrong.”

Peter Lawrence

“He who has no children sacrifices death.”

Francis Bacon

Children is our future

We all want our children to grow up better, smarter, happier than us. Quotes on the topic that children are our future reveal to us the full meaning of this famous phrase.

“You will live in the world ten times, repeated ten times in children. And in your last hour you will have the right to triumph over conquered death.”

“Look at my children. My former freshness is alive in them. They are the justification for my old age.”

William Shakespeare

“Life is short, but a person lives it again in his children.”

Anatole France

“Children are one third of our country’s population and our entire future. Children make me want to live.”

Muhammad Ali

“By raising children, today’s parents are raising the future history of our country, and therefore the history of the world.”

“Our children are our old age. Proper upbringing is our happy old age, bad upbringing is our future grief, our tears, our guilt before other people.”

Anton Makarenko

“Children are living messages that we send to a future that we will not see.”

Alfred Whitehead

“Fear for a child is more than fear for one’s own life. This is fear for one’s immortality.”

Victoria Tokareva

The magical world of childhood

You don't always need a lot of words to express the essence of things. Short quotes with meaning about children only confirm this.

“The child is the future.”

Victor Marie Hugo

"A child gives birth to parents."

Stanislav Jerzy Lec

“All the children in the world cry in the same language.”

Leonid Leonov

“Most of us become parents before we stop being children.”

Minion McLaughlin

“Children listen most attentively when people are not talking to them.”

Eleanor Roosevelt

“We always make up our children.”

Voldemar Lysyak

“Every person is always someone’s child.”

Pierre-Augustin Caron de Beaumarchais

“Women make us poets, children make us philosophers.”

Malcolm de Chazal

“The efforts of adults are aimed, in essence, at making the child comfortable for themselves.”

“The loneliness of a child gives the doll a soul.”

Janusz Korczak

“Abandoned children often live with their parents.”

“Children are a strict assessment given by life itself.”